this is my explanation:

So, I posted a poll question over there to the right. See it? Ya, I know, that's a really personal question to ask. That's why I did it as a poll question and not a question in a post--so you can all remain anonymous. I've just been thinking about how that aspect of my life has changed through the years and I was talking to a young friend who hast just been married 2 years and who is struggling in this area and I wanted to give her some encouragement that it gets better. (or at least for me it has). Of course, that got me to wondering if I am the exception or if a lot of people actually start out with trouble but "find their way" as time passes. Obviously, being the subject of sex, I don't want to pry too much or indulge TMI. So, if you wanna answer, please do...but if you don't and you think "Ahh!..what is she thinking asking something like that" then just don't answer.
Personally, I think its a subject that isn't talked about enough. So many young couples (Christian ones anyway) are getting married with NO CLUE. Okay...that's all I'll say. (for now). he he