II Chronicles 7:14

If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.

Thursday, January 03, 2008

bills, schmills...

Blah...I have been sitting here at my desk paying bills and balancing my checkbook for the past hour. I have a pain in my back/shoulder from all the typing/calculating and I feel like a zombie just sitting here staring at the screen like duhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Anyway, I thought I'd blog again since I have something on my mind. Here is what it is: Husbands and wives should make every effort possible to go to bed at the same time.
There. I said it. That's one ingredient absolutely necessary for a good sex life. It drives me absolutely NUTSO when my husband falls asleep on the couch before I even finish cleaning up the dishes or putting the kids to bed. How are we ever supposed to have "us" time if he's snoring by 8 pm? Grrrrr......
I can be feeling totally romantic and in the mood all evening long and even hint around to him...but the second I hear him start snoring...every ounce of interest leaves my body. It's not so much that I am mad at him for falling asleep..I mean...the guy gets up early so I understand that he gets tired. BUT...when there is a promise of some late-night fun...it just seems like he'd at least TRY to stay awake. Even I would fall asleep if I just came home, ate dinner and then sat on the couch without moving for hours. But I don't. I go-go-go-go and that keeps me awake. I might sit down to watch an hour long show...but I get up at every commercial break and do something (fold laundry, make lunches, set out the next days clothes, empty the dishwasher, etc.)
I honestly think that when our "S" life started getting really good..it was when we made a committment for #1: Me to not be on the computer in the evenings (at bedtime) and #2: Him not fall asleep before bedtime. Then we were putting the kids to bed at a reasonable time everynight and still had plenty of time for us before we needed to go to sleep. Perfect. Why is it not like that anymore? Maybe I need to remind him of the fun that is there waiting if he'd just stay awake for it??? hmmmm...
Anyhow, who know's what ya'll are all thinking of me now...ha ha
oh well! I think I will go climb in bed next to my hubby, watch King of Queens and fill out my 2008 calander with all the birthday's we need to remember and then maybe catch the first 15 minutes of Designed to Sell before I snooze off and miss the ending. As usual.
Goodnight!

8 comments:

Kate said...

thanks for reminding me to balance the checkbook today!

Logziella said...

If men only knew what really turns a woman "on"...like oh say him cleaning up the dishes and putting the kids to bed...there would be MANY more babies in the world I tell you!~ LOL!!!

Amos said...

Amy said I should read your blog, and I just want to say that during this time of the year when it is cold, the temperature takes a real toll on my body. Right know I am doing the same thing (fallin asleep early), and I hate it. During the summer I can get up at 5 and stay up until 11 with no problem. Have patience, maybe wake up early with him a couple of mornings and put him in the mood.

Rachael Rae Diaries said...

Hi Jen! its nice to meet you! I can't really comment on this but I am sure one day when I am at this point in my life I will turn to all of you married women for advice! LOL But for now I agree with the bills part. hope to hear from you soon!

M, J, B, G...and Sam. said...

okay Ben, I hear ya. BUT...think about a day when you're off work...you're home with Amy and the boys. They're crabby and whiny and it's really grating on your nerves. You've been trying to get lots of stuff done all day long AND trying to give them attention and you're just exhausted. Then your husband comes home and wants dinner so you deny yourself any relaxation and start cooking. Then you have to clean up all that mess...and you look over and the guy who just got home and ate is now snoozing on the recliner. Where you'd LOVE to be. Grrr....
Do you understand where we're coming from? We would LOVE to just sit down and relax while someone did all that stuff for us. I think any man would agree, if he were being completley honest, that being home with the kids 24/7 is a HARD job (that a lot of men probably couldn't handle or sure wouldn't want to). Maybe there should be some sort of every-other-day schedule where the husband and wife take turns doing the evening chores every other day. That's only fair, right?
Ps. If Amy wanted you to read this....she feels a lot like I do.
When you guys fall asleep before we get any "us" time...it makes us feel like that time isn't very important to you. Maybe it isn't...but its CRUCIAL for us!
Okay..sorry..didn't mean to go off on that....love ya!!

Amos said...

I do agree that the husband can help, and Amy will even tell you that about half the time I clean up the dishes and unload and reload the dishwasher after supper, except the days when I have put in 12 hours. P.S. I did stay home for 3 months while Amy went to work 2 summers ago and it was very hard on us financially but I wanted Amy to see that I could do it. Ben

kc said...

Do you get up with him in the mornings? If so, have your "us" time then...while the kids are still in bed. Jump in the shower with him! :) Talk about getting the day off to a great start! haha

teya said...

A lot of times, I think we take for granted what we think is going to happen when in reality our spouse has no idea of our aspirations for the night...
Try being mose specific early on in the evening...
just a thought!!!
Lov ya